Our thoughts create our reality.  And when we’re experiencing grief, our feelings and thoughts can exhaust us and negatively fill up our mind and heart. When we become aware of these heavy or negative ideas and emotions, we have the ability to transform them. The way to transform feelings is by fully feeling them.  The way to change our thinking is to change a negative thought into a positive one. Affirmations are a helpful tool in doing this.

An affirmation is a declaration and positive thought to help move you toward peace and happiness. We can allow whatever feeling to just be but we don’t want to wallow in it. In times of sadness, an affirmation can allow the mind to shift from a negative thought into a positive one. It can transform our state of being.

An affirmation may be said repeatedly or just once. Some people post affirmations around their home to remind them of these ideas. Below is a list of affirmations that may help guide you in troubling times.  Some may resonate more than others. Choose what connects with you and allow yourself to take it in and wash over you. 

• In my sadness, I love myself.
• It’s okay to take time to grieve.  
• I let go of my sorrow, but hold onto my love for my loved one. 
• I am willing to release any negative fearful idea from my mind and body and life.
• It’s okay to be angry at having to grieve.
• I will feel my grief but not wallow in it.
• I choose love. I choose to heal.
• I relax and let all the feelings flow through today.
• I have lived and loved. I give and receive love today.
• Grieving takes time. I am patient with my healing process.
• I forgive anyone close to me who has died. 
• I feel my angels holding me today as I grieve.
• I accept what I cannot change and find the courage to change the things I can.   
• My life has purpose and I live today in compassion and love.
• I look for the rainbows after the storm. 
• I rest today when I need it. 
• I’m through grieving today and I move onto other emotions. 
• I take care of myself as I heal.
• I’m discovering new strengths within myself.
• I am thankful for the time I shared with my loved one.